Poverty
is the stressor I chose to expand on further. My mother who is now in her 70’s
grew up in North Georgia in a poor community. Her mother was an alcoholic and
her father was a boot legger. Neither one of her parents worked a regular job
for very long therefore the children went without during the most important
stages of development. Her and her brother would forage for food; she even ate
dirt when she was really hungry. Due to the poverty she has experienced hunger,
racism, violence, and isolation.
As
a small child she thought this was normal so her self-identity was not affected
until she had to go to school and she was exposed to people who were not in
poverty. That was when she realized she was not the same as other children. She
was constantly in the fight or flight stage if she was around her mother so she
chose to spend most of her waking hours outside.
She
never received dental care so her teeth were very bad and hurt most of the
time. At the age of 17 she had all of her remaining teeth pulled and got
dentures. She dropped out of school at the age of 12 and got a job working in a
truck stop, married my father and entered another alcoholic abusive
relationship, but my father worked and she didn’t go hungry so she believed
that was the way people were or that she was at fault somehow.
My
mother is self-educated. She loves to read and when we were young children she
would help us do our homework by teaching herself from our text books. My
mother coped with her situation by escaping from reality in nature. At the age
of 4 her brother was born so she had something to focus her attention on;
helping him thrive and survive. She was his primary caregiver during his
formative years and she ensured he received food and protection; even if it
required her to put herself at risk.
The
area in our country that I would like to know more about is the Appalachian
region of Alabama, Kentucky, Tennessee, Virginia, and West Virginia. The
Appalachian Regional Commission (ARC) reports on Appalachian statistics such as
poverty, income, and employment. According to their 2007-2011 report, poverty
rates across the US was 14.3% compared to 16.1% in the Appalachian region of
Alabama, Kentucky, Tennessee, Virginia, and West Virginia. Even within these
states there is quite a difference between poverty rates. For example, in
Virginia the statewide rate is 10.7% versus an 18.1% rate for the Appalachian
region. The state with the worst poverty rate in the region is Kentucky with a
24.8% rate versus 18.1% rate for the rest of the state. (http://www.fahe.org/appalachian-poverty/)
The
kind of stressors that impact the development of children in this region are
the same stressors my mother faced as a child; poverty, isolation, lack of
health care, physical abuse and neglect. The federal government and local
governmental agencies are trying to combat the effects of these stressors by:
Spreading the Word:
Tell your friends, family, and coworkers about Appalachia and Fahe.
Donating: A donation with Fahe goes a long way. They
have worked in Appalachia for over 30 years and they know where to place your
money where it will do the most good.
Investing:
You can earn a competitive return and help those less fortunate. They have a
100% repayment track record to ever investor in our history.
Volunteering:
Come out and help, meet the people, and let the experience change your life and
theirs for the better.
Resources:
Almost
Heaven Habitat for Humanity – WV http://almostheavenhabitat.org/
Appalachia
Service Project (ASP)– TN/KY www.asphome.org
Bell-Whitley
Community Action Agency – KY www.bell-whitley.org
Christian
Appalachian Project (CAP)– KY www.christianapp.org
Christian
Outreach to Appalachian People (COAP)– KY
http://www.coap.faithweb.com/organ.html
Clinch-Powell
RC&D – TN www.clinchpowell.net
Hale
Empowerment and Revitalization Org(HERO) –AL www.herohousing.com
HOMES
– KY http://www.homeseky.com/
Housing
Development Alliance – KY – http://www.housingdevelopmentalliance.org/
Kingsport
Housing and Redevelopment Authority – TN www.kingsporthousing.org
Knoxville
Leadership Foundation – TN www.klf.org
People
Inc – VA – www.peopleinc.net
People’s
Self Help Housing – KY www.pshhinc.org
Religious
Coalition for Community Renewal – WV – www.rccr.org
Southeast
Rural Community Assistance Project – VA – www.sercap.org
Southern
Appalachian Labor Schools – WV www.sals.info
Woodlands
Development Group – WV www.wdgwv.org
Wow! It sounds like you have been through a lot in your life. I am so proud and happy for you that you are getting your MASTERS!!! What an accomplishment. I work with low-income families daily and am always told in training that the lower income population begins school at a disadvantage and will rarely seek higher education. I always tell my families if they work hard and put their mind to it they can do anything. Thank you for sharing your story!
ReplyDeleteJessica Arnold
Hi Susan,
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for sharing your story. It really interested me when you spoke about how your mother thought that her childhood was "normal" until she entered public school. This is a pattern I see with my own family as well; I chose to write about my young nephew, who's parents both struggle with addiction. He has grown up in a very negative environment, and because of that, he thinks certain inappropriate behaviors are normal. This is something that, now that he is in our care, we are trying to counteract. Kudos to you and your mother for continuing to work hard despite challenging circumstances!
Hello Susan,
DeleteWow!!! I enjoyed reading your blog this week. I am amazed about your mom story and how strong she was to fight through her situations growing up. I am sure you follow in her foot steps of being a strong woman to yor children just like she was to you and your brother.
Thanks for sharing!!
Vonecia West
Hello,
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading your post about how all those stress factors effected your mother as a child. It is amazing that she made it trough all the trails and tribulations. As African Americans when we look at our parents and grandparents and see what they had to face with experiencing racism it just allows me to be thankful that we are able to have the right that we have today. With all the racism as a child Iv couldn't imagine how they held up. I guess it was normal to them because it was so common. When we look at poverty today, and see how many households are affected by poverty it is sad. Today there are so many resources and programs that help families become self sufficient and obtain health care. Early childhood programs is one program that provides parents and children with tool and resources to learn and have equal opportunities.